Michelle Obama is turning out to be quite a social evangelist. Now she is giving dating tips to young women. Her advice is rather regressive. “Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long and then it’s, ‘Who are you as a person?’ That’s the advice I would give to women - don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul.”
She assumes that all women are gold-diggers and wish to be arm candy. In many professions there are women who are settling for men who are younger and therefore not as well-established in their work. Hollywood and the music industry have several examples where the women are more famous and the men have dated or married them for money.
She also discounts the fact that many men do want recognition for their wealth and their position from not just their peers, but their women. I cannot imagine a situation where a Mr. Money Bags who is also a Big Title would be even willing to expose his soul. That would make him vulnerable. It is much in the manner of women acting tough as defence mechanism.
Relationships are built over time. It is not as easy as what you look for, but what you are attracted to. What keeps you in it keeps both in it, maybe for different reasons. It isn’t a one-lane journey.
She also warned women against marrying “somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole”. The concept of happiness alters over time. And why must a woman need a man to make her feel whole? Can they not be two individuals who share many things? Being completed by another is really closing the book when you should be merely moving from one chapter to another with the person.